What a lovely honor to photograph Dan and Linda Bidwell. Our Happily Ever After project gets more and more interesting. In a world where half of marriages end in divorce, I find it comforting to see the other half — marriages surviving and thriving.
Linda Bidwell was the Drama and English Teacher at Lee High School. She was well known and always loved. She truly cared about the students and is still in touch with so many. I graduated in 1981 but never had the luck to have her as my teacher. But we had the opportunity to meet earlier this year at the funeral of one of my favorite teachers, Mrs. Lawson. Face Book brought us together as friends as I have been drawn to her posts about her garden. Seeing her posts about gardening and life together with her husband Dan made me curious to know more. In addition, I’m so excited and blessed to have Linda editing one of our new children’s books that Suzi and I are currently working on.
I met Dan for the first time on our photo shoot. I did happen to see on FB some cool pictures of him long ago with his long hair. From the moment I met Dan I could sense his gentle heart. As for Linda you could just see the beauty of their love and feel this incredible 37 year chemistry they have together.
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Their Love Notes:
1. How did you meet, what attracted you to each other?
Linda: Dan and I both moved to Huntsville in 1975 and by luck were neighbors in the same apartment complex. What attracted me to him? Everything — the whole package. A flower child of the 60s, naturally I loved his gorgeous long hair and his good looks. but even more, I loved his gentleness, his honesty, his wit, his intelligence, and his quiet demeanor.
Dan: We were comfortable and natural friends right away. I was quiet and somewhat of a geek, and I certainly wasn’t a natural at trying to impress. I loved that she accepted me as I am and didn’t try to change me and didn’t need me to be something else. We just hit it off.
2. Describe a memorable story of the two of you.
Linda: This is a difficult question because we are a self-proclaimed boring couple, perfect little home bodies. I will relate a story to shows Dan’s thoughtfulness and his ability to make me smile. In 2000, I had a major surgical procedure at the Cleveland Clinic. As a friend describes it, I was literally cut in half and was hospitalized for 8 days without food or drink or even an ice chip. On the eighth day when my epidural was removed, I realized how painful the surgery was. When I asked my burley male nurse for some pain medication, he told me that because I hadn’t swallowed anything for 8 days, he wouldn’t give me oral meds, though the doctor had said I could have them. Eventually, the nurse did give me what seemed like children’s Tylenol, which didn’t touch the pain. I told Dan to go tell him that I wanted some serious pain relievers and if he didn’t comply, he was going down. Dan looked down at me lying in that hospital bed, smiled, and asked, “And who is taking him down? You and whose army?” I had to smile at my foolishness. In spite of being in pain, he made me laugh at myself. Several days later I was released to fly home. We didn’t go to the Cleveland airport; instead, we went to a private airstrip on Lake Erie where we boarded a chartered plane. Dan knew that I would be in pain and didn’t want me to endure the crowds and layovers of a commercial flight. That was my first and only chartered flight, and I will never forget it.
Dan: Our wedding day story. Until that day, we gave no notice to our parents or to anyone else. This was a real shocker to my parents because they lived out of town and had never met Linda. In fact, they were not even aware we were dating. We got married at the courthouse. There was no big proposal. The week before, we just decided to get hitched after Linda expressed a concern that she would not be given funeral leave from work if anything ever happened to me, but we knew all along that we would get married anyway.
3. Key ingredient to your success as a couple, biggest challenge to overcome?
Linda: Our relationship has just always worked for us. I take care of him and he takes care of me. I want to make him happy; he wants to make me happy. We support and love each other as we smile and journey together through life, laughing every chance we get.
Dan: For us, we never have to try to make it work. It just does. When we are at home, we often do our own thing, comfortable the other is close by. When one of us is away from home or is out of town, the other finds it more difficult to get things done. We are not clingy, but are extremely close, independent people.
4. Favorite quote of verse?
For me, it is a line from Bob Dylan’s “Forever Young.”
“Always do for others and let others do for you.”
I really don’t know that Dan, a man of very few words, has a favorite quote.
5. Best gift ever?
Linda: If Dan never went shopping, he would be a happy camper. Early on, I let him off the hook and told him he didn’t need to buy me gifts for Valentine’s Day, Christmas, my birthday, or any other holidays. This was fine for both of us. My sisters laugh when I tell them that Dan is tight with his money because, as they see it, he spoils me with lavish gifts. I suppose I should say that he is tight with is money, but when he spends, he really spends! He will likely think I will identify the best gift ever from him as the tractor with the front loader, but he would be wrong. I have three favorite gifts, the first of which is RK eye surgery back in the 80s when it was still experimental and not covered by insurance. Prior to the surgeries, I was highly myopic and astigmatic. After these four surgeries, we were outside one evening and I shrieked with delight because I saw blades of grass instead of a carpet of green. Thanks to him, I have enjoyed keen eyesight for a quarter of a century. Another favorite gift is custom made hiking boots. Every year we spend a week in the Smokies hiking those wonderful mountains. After decades of buying ill-fitting boots, he arranged for me to have boots made to fit my short, fat, 3 1/2 E-width foot. My third favorite gift reflects his kind, thoughtful nature. The day before Valentine’s Day many years ago, he made a CD for me. He secretly recorded a brief personal message followed by Bob Dylan’s recently released “Make You Feel My Love.” He put the CD in my car, knowing that I would listen to it on my way to work that day. He was a romantic when I met him and now 37 years later, he is every bit as romantic.
Dan: There is no pressure of having to do the right thing at the right time. Our gifts to each other are not because of holidays or occasions. We give each other gifts when the time feels right, which make them more meaningful. Back in 1984 following worrisome hours awaiting my late return from a motorcycle ride, Linda told me if I sold my bike I could buy that BMW I had been eyeing. Years later, she signed me up for a BMW Driving School, something I had talked about. We refer to this as the gift that keeps on giving. Was she ever surprised when the registration package arrived and she learned I’d have to buy a helmet. Little did she know that this was a Performance Driving School. Twenty-three years later, and four cars, several helmets, race tires, brake pads, performance suspensions, a trailer and Linda’s Porsche Cayenne for towing the race car. . . Yep, the gift goes on and on. And I love it!
6. Something he/she does very well?
Dan: She takes such great care of me. What more could you ask for?
7. Favorite food?
Dan’s favorite food is anything eaten at home. He prefers “Linda’s Cafe” to any other eating establishment. I swear when he gets home from work, he walks into the house sniffing to see if anything is cooking. For me, it’s Mexican. On our 25th anniversary, he told me he’d take me anywhere. I suggested San Antonio so we could feast on Mexican foods.
8. Something you still dream about doing but haven’t done yet?
Linda: Dan’s retirement, which is still years away. We have no grandiose plans other than to enjoy our golden years together. Sure, we have a short bucket list of places we’d like to visit (Yellowstone with my sister and brother-in-law, a true Yellowstone expert), but mostly, we look forward to relaxing here at home.
Dan: I would like to take a European Riverboat Tour.
9. What hobby will you enjoy during retirement?
Boy, are we ever boring. Years ago Dan introduced me to organic vegetable gardening, something he enjoyed doing with his granddad. Before I met him, I had never heard of compost, and now I am the Queen of Composting! He taught me all about making compost, and because I had summers off and he didn’t, I took over the task. Believe me, I tell him how quickly I’m giving this chore back to him the day he retires. Of course, I’m only partly serious about that because I know how much faster shredding compost is when we work as a team. As others plan exotic trips, Dan and I dream of the days when we can hang around the house and piddle about, growing and sharing good ol’ veggies.
10. What does Love It Out mean to you?
Linda: At the end of her show, Ellen DeGeneres tells folks to “be kind to one another.” Indeed, if we were kind and patient and gentle in our dealings with others, love would come naturally.
Dan: Treat everyone with kindness and respect because we are all equals.
Thanks Linda & Dan for a lovely time! We so enjoyed your hospitality, your trail & gardens, conversation, and mostly your love story!
We loved their window seat with a garden view!
Alphabetized albums – A, B, C, DYLAN, E, F, G…
Your life is beautiful when you love it out!
My wonderful brother and sister (in-law)!
Love this! Mrs. Bidwell was my favorite english teacher at Lee! We are still in touch and good friends to this day!
I remember calling Mrs. Bidwell “Lovely Linda.” Glad she had such a good fella, she was a favorite!
What an awesome tribute. These are two amazing people. My Aunt and Uncle. I love them both so much!